• HANDLING YOUR BROKEN HEART NEGATIVELY MEANS either wallowing in pity or suppressing your pain by medicating it. All you'll succeed in doing is allow your pain to pollute your life & sabotage your relationships.
  

• HANDLING YOUR BROKEN HEART TO PROMOTE HEALING MEANS accepting responsibility for your emotional well being.  As you do this, you'll develop a renewed understanding of your feelings.  You see, underlying your broken heart are lessons you must learn to move beyond it. 

• Emotions are the body's response to a thought.  They don't happen to you, they occur within you & are your own internal psychological creations. 
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• You are the cause and your life is the effect. You exist as both the problem and the potential solution in your life.  Lasting change comes from within.
  
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• Any love in your relationship is a reflection of your inner state.  The love you receive is an exact measure of what you give yourself first.

• Resistance is a refusal to accept the truth and acceptance is simply an acknowledgment of it.  Facing the truth is vital if you wish to learn from it.

• Letting go of a relationship that's over is necessary so you can begin to acknowledge what's happened and learn from it. 
  
• This enables you to understand your role in the relationship, learn from the experience and make a different contribution in your future relationships. 
  
• Until you do this, you'll be unable to recover from a broken heart and only perpetuate past relationship problems in any future relationships.

• Recovering from a broken heart means letting go of your expectations of what "should be" and accepting what is.

• Recovering from a broken heart means examining what you're afraid of losing most and letting go of these fears as an illusion.

• Recovering from a broken heart means letting go of what isn't in your control and recognizing what is.

• Recovering from a broken heart means letting go of your need to place blame elsewhere for an empowering view of yourself as both the cause and potential solution in your life. 
  

• Learning how to get over a break up means understanding how to achieve closure on your own without having to rely on your ex.

• Learning how to get over a break up means understanding how you've become addicted to your ex and uncovering effective remedies for those painful withdrawal symptoms.

• Learning how to get over a break up means knowing how to curb your urge to contact your ex and instead focus on yourself as an ongoing self-improvement project. 
  

• Learning how to get over a breakup means discovering how to handle rejection gracefully while also not enduring any long term effects to your self-esteem.
  

• You can choose to continue doing what you are and perpetuate the hurt in your life and feel stuck with no way to move forward.   This happens as you continually rehash things over and over again and become so steeped in a world of hurt you can't see now way out.  As you seek for a remedy to recover from a broken heart, you focus on your desire to get closure from your ex and understand why they left.  This causes you to make continual attempts to re-establish contact in search for an answer.  As your continual attempts are only met with more rejection, you end up with another huge blow to the ego......

• You can learn how to get over a breakup.  This means understanding how love in a relationship can sometimes revert to need and addiction as we come to depend on it for our emotional well being.   With this recognition of your addiction to love, you can learn to let go of this need.  This means find within yourself what you depended on your ex for.   You see closure after a breakup is something you give yourself.    

In the aftermath of a breakup as you struggle to come to terms with what went wrong, your ex becomes an all consuming obsession.  As you try to understand why the breakup happened, you replay memories of past events endlessly in your mind  This produces an endless array of painful thoughts that only deepen the pain until you feel permanently heartbroken.  Before long it seems like your broken heart has the better of you and you're just along for the ride.  Just getting through your day becomes a struggle.  At times you're just a zombie going through the motions.  At other times you start falling apart in endless "weep and mope" sessions. 

• Lesson One to Get Your Power Back - Accepting Responsibility For Yourself.  This means understanding yourself as the causal explanation and potential solution for your life.
  

• Lesson Two To Get Your Power Back - The Answers You Seek Ultimately Lie Within.  Looking to your ex in search for the answers is how you give your power away.  Remember, they aren't the answer - you are. 
  

• Lesson Three To Get Your Power Back - Needing your ex back is an unhealthy illusion that causes you to give your power away.  They become essential for your emotional well being. 
  

• Lesson Four To Get Your Power Back - You are not a victim unless you choose to be.   You see power isn't something people can take from you unless you let them. The choice is always yours....

• To Rebuild yourself after a break up you must accept that all you have is the result of who you are being. "The more we are, the more we do, the more we have, the more we give." - Ralph Waldo Trine
  

• To rebuild yourself after a break up you need to understand how your perceptions, feelings, and beliefs act as self-fulfilling prophecies.  Who you believe you are is who you are destined to become.  What you believe is possible sets the limits for you end up getting in a relationship.

• To rebuild yourself after a breakup you must get that your reality isn't an objective fact.  Instead it's a personal subjective illusion you create for yourself with your attitudes, beliefs, and feelings.   Are things the way they are as matters of fact, or because you choose to perceive them that way? 
  

• To rebuild yourself after a break up you need to get that the solution you seek is outside the box.  Discovering the solution happens only when we change our mind about who we will be in our life.